An open letter to Melissa Rauch….


I don’t know you, but I adore you.  (even more than I already did.)

As an avid fan of The Big Bang Theory, even 10-year-old reruns, I’ve always loved your Bernadette character.  Your spunk, sass, and just overall hystericalness (that’s a word, right?) has always made me laugh.

But now?  Now I just adore and respect you on a whole new level.  First of all, with 1 in 8 couples suffering through infertility issues ( the bravery and courage you have shown by using your voice to open up about your struggles is nothing short of heroic.  So many of us have walked the path of infertility and know first hand what it’s like.  (my story) Though all of our paths are different (my IVF mafia) they are all very much the same in so many ways.  The resentment towards a body that won’t simply do what it’s meant to do.  The pings of jealousy towards others experiencing pregnancy joy (immediately followed by self loathing guilt for even possessing such “selfish” thoughts) the pain of loss, etc.

For those who DO experience pregnancy, there is the constant struggle to simply enjoy the beautiful gift growing within because of the fear that taking too deep of a breath, too long of a walk, or too hot of a shower will bring about a wave of destruction and collapse the shell of a “happily ever after” dream that you have let creep into your mind.

So THANK YOU Melissa.  Thank you from the bottom of my heart (and thousands of others I’m sure) for having the gracefulness to share such an intimate part of your life with us all. The loneliness and heartbreak I felt during my struggles wouldn’t be wished on anyone.   Your voice helping to “open a conversation” or “close the mouth” of a well intentioned friend/family member is so very powerful.

I pray you find peace, joy and fulfillment, and that you are able to savor this journey to your little one!





Kara Edwards is a photographer based in Nashville, TN specializing in maternity and newborn photography.  After her own 4 year struggle with infertility, she (along with her husband) founded the Starfish Infertility Foundation, a 501c3 non-profit organization committed to providing financial support for those struggling with infertility in the U.S.  Founded in 2015, the foundation awards two grants annually to individuals and couples who do not have infertility provisions through their insurance to help fulfill their dream of having a family. Starfish is the only organization in Tennessee that awards grants for infertility treatment. Visit the website to learn more, donate or apply for a grant.